As a matchmaker, I couldn’t help but notice that beautiful women
would be sought after, no matter their emotional, mental or
spiritual state. Why is this? I thought about beauty
itself—beautiful women (or men), beautiful cars, beautiful gems,
beautiful clothes, beautiful houses, beautiful scenery, beautiful
boats, etc. That which is beautiful tends to be desired by human
beings. The problem is that the person usually wants to POSSESS
these things. You’ve probably heard the term “trophy wife.” Thus, I
think it is very important for women to recognize this phenomena.
They need to confront it and then figure out how best to deal with
I want to stop here and give credit to those men who are NOT fixated
on beautiful young women. But my point is that women need to
understand the genetic programming.
This leads to the issue about weight. A study of men’s profiles
finds that the vast majority indicate that they want a woman who is
not overweight--even though they themselves may be. Double standard?
Yes, of course. But if it exists, then it should be confronted.
Most of us would agree that obesity is not a survival condition. And
most of us also know how challenging it is to prevent it or handle
No matter how wonderful a woman may be, a romantic relationship
involves bodies and sex. If the guy can’t get the idea of kissing
you and making love to you, he may well consider you a wonderful
friend, but he will look elsewhere for his mate (sexual partner).
It should be noted here that the vast majority of people who are
married, or have a mate, are NOT “10’s”. But it should also be noted
that in the past, people usually got married when they were young
and more physically attractive. Then they got old together. Divorce
was not an option, or at least, not common.
This is the first time
in modern history that there have been, thanks to easy divorces, as
well as other factors, so many single older people.
You then add to
this phenomena the “brain washing” accomplished by movies, TV, and
commercials which tend to equate beauty and sex with real love, and
the problem magnifies.
Thus, I think you can see how this issue of
“beauty” is part of the problem older women have to deal with when
searching for a mate.